Why your luck is in your hands

DISCLAIMER : Saying your luck is in your hands in no way means that the stuff below is about Astrology. Astrology is bullshit and the author of this post always stays away from it.

I am a great believer in luck, and I find that the harder I work, the more I have of it. – Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of the USA

How great would it be if every day were a lucky day for us? How amazing life would become if every moment we live is constantly under the spell of fortune? If only we had ‘lucky’ written all over our faces, would it have been possible to do things we had always wanted, when we wanted.

But the sad part is, stuff like that is not possible. Right?


Then why is it that some people get what they want without much of effort while others, despite relentless toiling and twisting for years, still end up having something which they don’t like? Is it luck that governs their lives? Is it that serendipities play a vital role in our lives? And do they alone dictate our destinies?

Let me explain this with something I had come across recently.

A study conducted by University College London revealed why and how we are the creators of our own luck. The project asked several people to submit their stories of fortune and success and then scrutinized the stories which had boiled down to two findings.

None of the people had engineered the fortunes that had come their way. And all of them had two things in common. One was that they could interpret and identify the opportunities that crossed their paths, and two, they had made use of their minds to bag those opportunities at the right time. These opportunities, which seemed to present themselves out of thin air without any apparent rhyme or reason, had resulted in more good events which made the people think they had become ‘lucky’.

Of course, those people had become lucky. Only that they chose to become so. They made choices and took decisions to grab the opportunities, as a result of which much more good things had materialized.

 ‘Making’ choices and ‘taking’ decisions are actions. And by taking action, these people had turned out to become the creators of their luck, and the masters of their destiny.

The same applies to you, me and any other individual under the sun with flesh and bone. Our luck, mostly, lies in our own hands.

Numerous opportunities, I repeat, numerous opportunities present themselves daily. Some are trifling that we take no notice of them. And some are big, but a mind bogged down with negativity and despondence cannot recognize them. An open and positive mind, on the other hand, has the ability to identify opportunities that are concealed even in the thickens of monotony.

The reason why some people around call you lucky for your success is because they cannot digest the fact that you are successful, and are more inclined towards bringing you down by belittling your efforts using the term ‘lucky’. Praising you for your efforts is an alien habit to them. They are just too unbelievably amazed with the enormity of your achievements, that they tend to see you through the envious eye.

And such people constantly mouthing about luck is nothing but a deliberate attempt to cover up their laziness and justify their failures. Phrases like ‘You just got lucky’ or ‘Bad luck is just hovering above my head’ or ‘My time is bad’ seldom fail to eject from their lips. Pointless criticism and futile justification of their setbacks seem to be the cornerstones of their life and living.

So to say, the concept of luck has only negligible value in any format of success. And if one can muster his grit and discipline, he can change, or rather create his own version of luck.

Yes. Your luck is in your own hands.




The uncharted waters

Life is like a 10-speed bike. Most of us have gears we never use. – Charles Schulz, Cartoonist

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Each one of us is a gigantic storehouse of flair and talent. We have that vast sea within us, a mammoth body of possibilities, which is waiting to be harnessed by our ignited minds. We have within us the power to do and get whatever we want.

But then, why is it that only a few amongst us manage to make it big? Why is it that the major chunk of the society mostly lingers in mediocrity and is afraid to face Change?

It is because, most of us are too scared to explore the uncharted waters of our own oceans of talent. We are so thoughtlessly immersed into the habit of following the herd, that we seldom realize we possess abilities we never knew; and that our bodily vehicles have gears we never used.

One of the biggest tragedies of life is to leave this world with our reservoir of talents left unknown and unused. Of course, what good it is to think of travelling places in the world outside when we haven’t travelled enough within?

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When someone says you can’t do something

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When someone says you can’t do something, chances are more that they themselves can’t do it, and chances are pretty negligible that you yourself can’t. 

When someone says you can’t do something, it means the power of your grit and will is put to test.

When someone says you can’t do something, it is time to rejoice; for only those who stand up to their passions face instant criticism and rebuke.

When someone says you can’t do something, it means you are rising above mediocre. Because the average don’t dare, and hence are never discouraged.

When someone says you can’t do something, it is nothing but a reminder to not to listen to someone who says you can’t do something.

When someone says you can’t do something, it is time to become firmer in what you believe.

When someone says you can’t do something, it is time to understand that you are on the same path tread by heroes.

When someone says you can’t do something, it is mostly because they have not seen anyone do the same and succeed.

When someone says you can’t do something, don’t believe them. Because if you do, you would be in the same category as them.

When someone says you can’t do something, do it. And do it so well that never ever would anyone even dare to say the same to you again. 


Why sometimes it is Good to be Deaf

A couple of days ago I was listening to a business tape. The speaker narrated this story. It touched me. 

Two brothers, one 12 years old and the other 7, were ice-skating on a frozen lake. The duo were having the time of their lives. Chasing, slipping and sliding, and hurling handful of snowballs at each other. Then all of a sudden, a small area of the ice cracked in, forming a wide gap. The elder brother slithered through the split in the frozen surface, and plunged into the ice-cold water beneath. He was drowning.

The younger brother was appalled. He had no idea of what to do. For a few seconds, his brains went numb with shock. He looked hither and thither in search of someone who could possibly pull out his brother to safety. But there was none around.

Time was pacing. The elder brother was battling against the spine-breaking cold of the icy waters. He had no option but to call out to his little brother for help.

The little kid realized the futility of waiting for help to come. He skated till the edge of the lake, ran over the ice and towards a tree. He struggled, climbed the tree, reached out to a branch and broke it. He picked up the broken branch and rushed back to his brother. And with its help, managed to tug his brother onto the surface.

The elder brother was all wet and gasped for breaths. His teeth chattered with the iciness. Within no time, the townsfolk arrived just to check what the commotion was all about. They saw the two brothers. Enquired what had happened. When the kids narrated the incident, the people themselves were amazed.

One of them asked the younger boy, ‘You are so small. How could you manage to pull out your elder brother?’

The boy didn’t know what to say. He just blinked. He himself had no idea about it.

The entire group chattered in wonder. Right then, a wise old man sliced through to the front. He placed both his heavy arms on the younger brother’s tender shoulders. Looked straight into his eyes. And smiled.

‘You know why you were able to rescue your brother?’ He asked.

The young kid stayed silent. Blinked his eyes once.

‘Because’, the old man paused, ‘when you were climbing the tree, there was nobody around to tell you that you can’t do it.’

Sometimes it is good to be deaf. Deaf to the negativity of the outside world. Deaf to the discouragement offered by losers. And deaf to the very idea that what you are doing is impossible to complete. 

Why blame game is a bad game

The superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others. – Don Shula, Football Coach

One of the cheapest human qualities is to blame others. And one of the most tragic human weaknesses is the inability to take the blame. 

Almost all of the endeavours of today comprise of teams. You take sport, entertainment, politics, business enterprises, publishing, IT etc.; all of these demand complete dedication and contribution from each and every single person in the team. And irrespective of the efforts put in by a team or an individual, failures happen.

What is important is to ensure these failures don’t become lethal pitfalls on our career paths. And that will be possible only when the quality of taking the blame is imbibed by our veins.

The world does not consist of all leaders. It is the mediocre and narrow minded thinkers who carve out the major chunk of mankind. So when something wrong crops up, most of the people around will get down to the finger-pinpointing business. Only a handful would be willing to take the blame.

Taking the blame is just the beginning. Once that is done, the immediate repercussions at times may not be sweet. Instead of acknowledging your courage to step forward and take responsibility, most people around begin their useless rounds of reprimands. Instead of focusing on what is to be done, they become more interested in lamenting and giving tons and tons of advices which they themselves may have never followed in their lives. (If they had, most of the failures wouldn’t happen in the first place) Such people tend to become bossy. Very soon they begin to act as if they are a unique kind of individuals having descended from heaven, who know all the right things and haven’t committed a single mistake in their entire lives.

And very soon, they vanish.

In the long run, only those who have the nerves to step forward to take responsibility stay, both in the minds of people and in the testimonials of mankind. The rest depart. They will be forgotten. The world is meant only for the gutsy. Not for the gutless and the weak.

Fleeing from responsibility is the habit of the timid, whereas embracing it is an attribute of the intrepid. 


Skill to do comes of doing – Ralph Waldo Emerson, Poet

We have dreams. And we want to achieve them. We have our own ambitions which we are proud of. We all want to make a distinct mark of ourselves in this ever-expanding groove of human race. We want to be recognised. We want to be touched by victory and admired by people.

The mere thought of fulfilling our dreams fills us with immense enthusiasm. The very idea of plunging into the process of working for our dreams excites us to gigantic levels.

We visualise, we contemplate; of ourselves standing tall on the podium of life, gazing into the distant past, and being happy that we had worked hard to avoid regrets.

We make plans to accomplish what we had dreamt of. We take numerous resolutions to stay disciplined and stick to the basic rules for success. We get inspired seeing someone from our own field win.

Most of us are sticklers to all these. But then, why is it that only a handful of us make it big?  Why is it that only a few of us manage to conquer the negatives and sail towards the radiant shores of success? Why is that most of us remain the same, just lingering between the slimy threads of mediocrity?

The reason is, when the mediocre keep thinking of ‘what’ is to be done and ‘if’ it has to be done, the winning lot actually DO it.

They DO things.

Want to chase your dreams? DO it. And DO it right now.





Adapt or perish, now as ever, is nature’s inexorable imperative. – H.G. Wells, Writer

 Adaptation is an incredible ability. For the strong, it is an option of sustainment; and for the weak, it is an option of survival. It is nothing but a choice the wise make to stand firm in the intense winds of change.

There are two kinds of things in life. Those over which we have complete control, and those over which we have none. There will be times in our lives when we will have to face the latter too in enormity. It is adaptation, and nothing else, which can strengthen our stand in such circumstances.

Change is inevitable. Whatever you do, or don’t do, change is going to happen. Whether we like it or not, things are going to change anyway.

Change is constant.

When things are within the grip of our hands, we step forward to action and become harbingers of change. But when things are not in our control, we adapt.

Adaptation is not the same as compromise.

Compromise happens not because of situations being out of our control, but because of our own laziness. We compromise when we are indolent to step into action; when we don’t dare enough to budge from our comfort zones; and when we choose to stay within our own limits.

But adaptation is different. It happens when you make a decision to adjust your faculties to emerge stronger in the changing conditions. Adaptation requires courage, and a will as hard as stone.

When you adapt, you change. And change is good.

Refraining from adapting is lethal. Though we might feel comfortable initially, as time passes, the repercussions will be debilitating.

If our ancestors had not chosen to adapt, we probably would still have been in the neandarthal era. Civilizations wouldn’t have been born, humans wouldn’t have evolved into more intelligent species, and yes, even you wouldn’t have been sitting in front of your computer (or smartphone) reading this!